No one plans for it. No one wants to do it. No one goes into marriage thinking, ‘if we get divorced, no big deal’. 

No. On your wedding day, you are pretty damn sure you’ve paid a lot of money for a ceremony to indicate that you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone. 

My parents got divorced when I was a teenager. It had been coming for a lot of years, and it was ultimately a good thing. 

I do not consider divorce to be a possibility in my life, nor does my husband. Because, well, we know the risks. We are aware of the risks. And we do this pretty amazing thing called ‘communication’. Thanks to the joys of communication, we can be relatively sure we aren’t going to get divorced, because we are can talk to each other. If something feels off, or not right, or is not as we’d like, we talk about it. Because we love and respect each other, talking about it leads to finding solutions for it. 

So, I guess, why I’m saying this, is that there has been a bit of divorce talk today about how divorce is a possibility, despite what the Christian community says. And let’s face it, the Christian community has THE SAME DIVORCE RATE as everyone else. What I’m saying is if you marry someone you can talk to, instead of because you are settling, because your mother said it was a good idea, because you are scared no one else will love you, because you’ll make really cute babies or you really want to have sex and you are both aware of who each other are and are both aware of the magnitude of the commitment you are making, if you’re best friends, have interests that are mutual, and most importantly can communicate effectively… then your chances of not becoming a divorce statistic are a lot higher.

And that is my opinion on Divorce.